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Good looks and charm can’t get you everywhere, but it’s a good start. Model and actor, Antonio Sabato Jr., has had no trouble attracting some of the most beautiful women in Hollywood; finding that elusive balance of a successful career and love life.
As Spokesperson for AnastasiaDate.com, Antonio has made it his mission to help single men find the woman of their dreams. So when it came time to find out just how single men could boost their dating prospects, we thought Antonio would be just the man to ask.
Fellas, this is your chance to learn from a dating master.
What is the first mistake a man can make when trying to attract a woman?
Antonio: Not being clear about what they want and being honest with themselves about the kind of person they really like and want to be with. I also believe their intentions should not be the wrong ones. You have to be clear about what you’re trying to achieve, and again, honesty is the key.
It’s about really knowing yourself and really knowing what kind of things you like in a woman. Take the time to really find out who and what that person is. Find out what the person is all about. Ask questions, pay attention, and listen to what she has to say. Be into the conversation rather than saying, “I want something from this person. I really appreciate what she is giving me.” Those are the main things for me.
Is confidence as valuable an asset to landing a date or are there other qualities that are more important?
Antonio: I think a man should know themselves first. They shouldn’t hide behind somebody they are not. Have a good time with the conversation, and don’t be afraid to approach the lady you are trying to meet. Have a smile and really be happy. Don’t drag the conversation down, bring it to another level. Really make your lady feel like she is important; that she is needed. Show her that something special is happening rather than just another conversation. Being a gentleman is important.
You mentioned being a gentleman. Do you think chivalry an undervalued virtue?
Antonio: Yes, I think so. It’s slowly but surely going away, and we need to bring it back. It’s the little things. For example, if your sitting at the table ordering dinner, ask your lady what she would like for dinner, pour the glass of wine; just being the caretaker! I think that will lead you to a good place. And don’t stop that. Don’t just prove yourself and then let it go away. It has to stay there. Be proud that you’re a gentleman. It’s a good thing. There’s not enough of it.
Is it worth the investment for man to work on his outward appearance before attempting to date?
Antonio: I think so. Take care of yourself. Women do it. They take care of themselves before they go on a date, and I think we should do the same thing. It also shows respect to the person you’re meeting. I think it’s important to take care of yourself before you take care of others. It’s definitely on the list for me.
Many women believe that men have become lazy when it comes to dating? I don’t know if that statement is necessarily true. So, what can a man do to show his interest in a woman?
Antonio: Make plans and set a date. Don’t say, “I am going to pick you up” or “I am going to meet you here” and that’s it. No. Make it special! If you’re going to go to see a movie, take her to see a film that she wants to see or that she’s been wanting see. Maybe there is a particular food or restaurant, or something you want to share that you recently experienced. Have something to talk about, “I brought you to a new place. I’m glad you’re here, I really hope you like it.” Just make it special. A rose, a gift of any sort is always nice.
And yes, things are becoming too easy now. It’s like it we’re always on the phone or on social media. What I suggest while on the date is that you turn off your phone. Be really devoted to the person so you can really spend time listening and paying attention like you care! It makes a woman feel really good. If she was on the phone the whole time or answering calls, that wouldn’t be so special.
It’s mutual, but it’s the job of a man, I believe, to take care of the situation and take care [of her] at all times.
That was actually going to be my next question about communication. Communication is said to be the key to any relationship, but is it ever appropriate to use social media or technology to ask someone on a date? It seems we’re in a tech world where most people are comfortable doing these things, but I wondered if you thought that was an acceptable method for trying to connect with a woman.
Antonio: It all depends on how you do it and the key is if it’s done with class or in a way that’s just cutting time, but at the same time you are trying to prove your point in a classy way like you’re a gentleman. But ultimately a phone call; a one-on-one conversation, a personal conversation, a human conversation is the best. Human interaction and communication is the key.
I have heard many women say, “If a man hasn’t been married by a certain age or made a commitment by a certain age, something is wrong with him.” Should a man be considered “damaged goods” if he has failed to commit to someone by a certain age?
Antonio: I recently got married, a few years ago, so maybe there was something wrong with me too, huh. [laughs] I don’t know. I think everybody is different. We all go through our journeys, our struggles and things that we go through. Everyone is different.
I have a good friend of mine since high school and he is recently married. It depends on your upbringing; how you were brought up and the environment you were thrown into. We all have our issues, some more than others, but ultimately the goal is that you don’t want to be alone.
What we’re doing with my blog on AnastasiaDate.com is it will give me the opportunity to really help these guys and answer some questions. I’m sure nobody wants to be alone. They want to meet a beautiful person inside and out that they can spend some time with. Humans can’t spend time alone for too long, they will go nuts! Relationships of any sort, whether it’s marriage, a boyfriend or girlfriend is work! You have to care for the person and be a gentleman. Breathe, relax and take one day at a time and it will work out.
Now you mentioned being a gentleman a couple times. Do you think good guys have a bad reputation? I feel like a lot of the bad boys seem to be the type that women go for, but do you think the good guys have it bad?
Antonio: Well you’re a woman, why do women go for the bad guys? [laughs]
I still don’t know, I have a good guy! [laughs]
Antonio: That is something I will talk about on the blog. “Why do women go for the bad guys knowing that their bad, yet they still go for the bad guy.”
I guess the question should be, How can a good gentlemanly guy stand out among the bad boys?
Antonio: I guess the misconception is that you are either a bad guy or a gentleman, but you can be a bad boy and a gentleman at the same time. I think you can be positive, can have a confidence in yourself and be strong as a man, but at the same time still be a gentleman. Some think being a gentleman means you’re being weak, but I think of being a gentleman as being strong. People take the easy way out and people don’t want to be a gentleman because it shows their weakness, but I think it’s the other way around. You will get a lot respect in return.
Don’t be a gentleman just to get into the sack. Be one in general with your mother, your sister and your friends. It’s a way to be because it’s the right thing to do. Few guys take the time to do that because it’s about other things.
I know you are involved with AnastasiaDate. What made you decide to work with this company and online dating?
Antonio: The reason I wanted to work with AnastasiaDate is because they are the biggest company for online dating, and they take dating very seriously. I have experience and I take it seriously. It’s fun. I can help men out there find the girl of their dreams, and if I can help through my experiences from the industry that I am in and the relationships I have had, why not! They’re the right company to be associated with.
What steps can men take now to help themselves meet someone online?
Antonio: It has to be safe. What’s important about AnastasiaDate.com is that it’s a place that’s safe and has class. We’ll take care of the gentleman. You can go there and open up about what you really need, and it will be comfortable. I think online dating is going up because men feel safe.
People I have known that have tried online dating and they have been successful. There are celebrities that use it all that time, but they just don’t talk about it. Things have changed. The world has changed. It’s another way to meet people.
I think that sitting down to meet someone and talking to them in a different way whether at home or through the computer, you can ask questions that you probably don’t want to ask in a bar or nightclub. By the time you actually meet, you feel like you know each other. There is no pressure.